Actually, Timing's Not A Bitch. You're The Bitch

What do you say when you failed a relationship? You will start blaming time. The thought of "the timing isn't right" will burst out of your mind, being the first cause of why some relationship doesn't work. Why some people aren't together. Why they ghosting other people. 

We start using timing as an excuse of why we don't act. Why we never pick up the phone to say we miss them or apologize of things we did to them. Why we met all the wrong people in--we say--the right time and all the right people in what we thought, the wrong time. Timing become an excuse of why life didn't align to the things we want, instead brings us to the things we don't know we need it yet. 

Since then we become obsessed with the terms 'good timing', but what exactly a good timing is? Is it when all the things makes sense to us? Or when every moment become convenient for us? Or when we finally have the courage to the things we always want to do, so we kinda feel that 'this is the time to do it'? I think 'good timing' is something that people made up in their mind when everything starts to feel better or start to feel convenient because I personally never really feel 'a good timing' in life.

So, I personally think that there are no such thing as 'good timing'. For me, there's only a "moment that is created and worked on". 

Because there never will be a perfect or good timing. Time will always be uncertain. It will always be messy and you'll never know when you will be ready. Timing's not a bitch--it is you that doesn't have the courage to act the way you should. Time will always be messy, time will never be perfect because it doesn't have the rule or the need to do so. Time doesn't own anybody's love story. We own our own love stories and everything that happens inside it, is up to us. 

We always use 'the timing's not right' when we are scared of our own feeling. When we are not sure of what we should do. We always make an excuse of the good and bad timing when we need more time to actually think of something. When we don't want to hurt someone along our way. When our incompetence of loving someone, come over us so deep we couldn't get a grip of ourselves. 

Or when other people doesn't want to hurt us or not sure of their feelings for us. When they are afraid of acting. When they doesn't want to take the risk of being hurt and hurting somebody along the way. 

Because the truth is, when you find someone that makes sense to you, you will work on it so every timing is right. You will meet them halfway. Everything will falls into place when you meet someone who intrigues you. You will fight the problem, makes the distance closer, make the timing's right. 

There will always be answer to every problem. You can always compromise. There will always be a way. You will work on every option so that you can stay together and be together. You know that there will be no perfect timing and you don't want to miss the chance on knowing them, because you know that there will always be something standing along the way. You will have the courage to take the risk because you don't want to miss a thing. 

When someone saying 'the timing isn't right' they're practically saying 'I know there will be so many obstacles along the way and I don't want to bother to even try'. They are giving up before they actually do something. Before they actually move. They know it's hard, and they choose the safest way and the easiest way and that's not the way to you. 

Because like life, timing is only right for people who want to work on it. Who willing to sacrifice and compromise. Timing is only right for people who try, even though they know it'll be a rocky road along the way--whether they are ready or not.