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Please, Stop Trying To Fix Everyone

Sometimes we're so addicted in being someone's good story. Somebody's happy ending. The reason why someone change. The fact that "i change my life since i met her". The beginning. The drama that happened over and over again. The sentimental story that ended up good and we, are the one who plays our part right.

Maybe that's why i stay in so many shitty relationship. In the name of "fixing people". Attracted to troubled man, trying to show what does love feel like. Feel happy when i think they're getting better because of us, but actually, it is them who finally realizing their worth on their own. The idea of someone, lost in their way, doesn't know what love is, or never experience the love like what we have.

The need to save those kind of people. Who we think lost because they never have love like us. The one who we think the same as us because we've been there. We know all the pain. The rejection. The feeling of being left out. The darkness that cover our surroundings. We know how hurtful that is, so that when we see someone 'potential', we try our best to save them. To fix them, into something that we think could save them from the misery that they have. From all of the bad choices, the bad things they do. We showered them with unconditional love, with the love that we think they couldn't receive from anywhere else. 

We showered them with so much love that sometimes we forget that: everybody's changing. They are not tangible objects. They are not actually broken. They are just having a phrase in life where they make bad choices and hurt everyone around them, including us. We cannot mold them into something that we think is right. They're not a statue. They could change into something better, but it's not because of us. 


Nobody could ever reach a point where they are really fixed into something that we tought they should be. 


Because in life, people can be good, bad, truly evil, very kind, selfish, brave, loving, cold, and there's nothing you could do that could make them stay at one, certain personality. You can do anything, like literally anything, like cry, beg, keep him from the world, reminding him, but you could never reach the week, month, even year where he could be fixed and loved you perfectly. 

Someone who really wants you, will let you know that they want you. 


There will be no games, no guessing, and you don't even have to ask because you damn sure know that they really want you. You don't have to texts them multiple times to get them reply your texts. Like everyone said, if they could they would. They will put you first and always put you first because they understand how to love you. How to make you feel treasured. They doesn't need to ask you, or you tell them how to love you. They will naturally let you in to their world and you don't have to fight for their attention. Loving them would be simple, and you both will find the way of how to make things work because you both want to stay in the relationship.

Nobody could ever be fixed and you could never fix anybody. You just have to choose carefully about the people you'll have the fight with.
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