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You Are Absolutely Don't Know Where You're Going

Right now in life, everything seems like you're coming to a dead-end. To the end of the road. At the edge of a cliff. 


You absolutely have no idea where life might take you. You keep thinking of the life you've been picturing for so long--and this life isn't even close to what you're dreaming of. You haven't been on the place where you should be right now. That dream job hasn't been yours. Even the plan of getting married by 25 is forgotten because hell, every guy wants to take it 'casual' right now.

You try to play it cool, try to brush it off. Telling people that 'I am living in my own timeline' or 'Things will falls into place for me one day' but you can't help to wonder: when is that 'one day' will actually happens to you? Why aren't you living the same timeline like your bestfriend who's already pregnant with her second child? Aren't you good enough either to be a mom? Why are you keep doing the same job like you did when you started your career?

Is this the life you've been meaning for your whole life?

Drop everything you do right now. Find the most comfortable position to sit. Clear your mind, and listen to me, right now. 

Where you are right now, the kind of situation you're in right now, isn't going to be permanent. This will only be temporary. Know that people move in their own pace, seasons changing, rain stopping, day turns into night. That tells you that nothing will last forever and it's not going to wait for anyone. It should be the signs that things are moving on and you should too. 

If you're just break up with someone and feels like you will spend your entire life forever because nobody will love you enough to stay the night, it won't. For one more time, you'll find someone to love and it will bring so much joy to fill your heart, even much more than before. If the job you had feels nowhere near joy to you, try to give it a spin by looking at it from a new perspective. Give more meaning to your job, don't just do it because you're told to or it's just something that you always do.

Everything really will happen according to your timeline, but you're the one who gets to give the deadline to your timeline. Don't just wait for something to happen, but make it happen. Work on it to happen, so it will happen according to your timeline preferences. Things will really fall into place for you when you make room for it. Your timeline, your call. 

I know that everyone seems like moving in the same timeline (according to your instagram feed) but you don't have to. Know that you don't have to move with the same pace with them--it'll not only tiring you out but after you reach the same destination with them, what else? Being in a different timeline with everyone else doesn't mean you're a failure or you're not successful. I hope you don't make decisions based on what other people thinks best for you or what other people are having right now. I hope you don't have to live based on other people's expectation for you. 
Whenever life leads you, I hope it's the one that could make you excited to wake up in the morning and the one which can make you do extra miles to make it happen. I hope you begin to follow your own timeline without having the need to care what other people are doing and how fast other people are moving. When you feel stressed or afraid of something, i hope you know that taking one small step back or pause isn't a failure. It's like collecting the energy to bounce back to where you are before--or even further. 

You are absolutely don't know where you are going but please don't let that distract you from what you have in the present: the privilege to wake up late in the morning, knowing you don't have to rush for work. The fact that you had a job. The beautiful sunrise that goes through your window and you get to see it everyday. The perfect smell of coffee and the new pages of that new book you finally get to buy. The smile on your friends' face whenever they see you coming from that door.

I hope you know that it's okay not to have everything figure out. While trying, have faith that life have something much better to offer eventually. Trust yourself and trust your timeline. Know that the only certain things is uncertainty and uncertainty sometimes leads you to the place you don't know you're able to be before. Know that some things are better left unanswered and you'll have your answer on everything in the perfect times in life. 

You are absolutely don't know where you are going. But you're going to be just fine. 



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